When it’s time to stop asking questions in your marriage

I knew the answer to the question.      And, I knew it was best to not answer it.      At least not 100% truthfully.      This is a story about what I’ve learned about questions and marriage.      I’ve made a 180-degree pivot in my views.      Let me start by explaining that the foundation of our entire marriage is based on questions.      Before Husband and I got married we went through a book of 289 questions prompting us

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Label this marriage ‘conflicted’

I’m armed and I’m told, dangerous.      No thing, no person is safe.      Hello, my name is Daryn and I’m a recovering slob.      Perhaps, “lazy clutterer” is a better label.      Speaking of labels, Husband says this is the problem. The messy beginning      We begin with the mess.      First there was me. I passed my lack of tidiness off to being single for so long.      Then, there was Husband. Surely, getting married would be the

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Rescued Poinsettia plant takes root in husband’s undying love

It’s the kind of love you root for.      You know that top notch person you adore who just hasn’t found her person?      That was the story with an old friend and work colleague of mine.      The beauty of social media as we lived in different cities and took different career paths meant I could follow along as she found love later in life.      This friend’s new husband clearly adored her. That was evident from the photos

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The excellent reason I lied to my husband

I lied to my husband this week.      Which sounds awful and horrible.      Judge me, if you must.      But first consider this:      It was all for a good cause.      And,      And,      He told me to. How we got to the lie      It was one of those mid-January snowy gray weekends. Both daughters are gone.      Just Husband, Pup, and I at home doing the kind of chores and tasks no one wants to

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The Magic of Setting Your Favorite Possession Free

I never understood why he wanted the boat.      Then again, there was so much I didn’t understand about their divorce.      Why would anyone not want to be married to my phenomenal friend?      Why would he cheat on her?      Gaslight her?      There are some things that are beyond explaining.      Like the boat.      Friend was and is a world champion barefoot water skier.      Her husband wasn’t a skier.      He hated going to the

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Realizing My Marriage Is Like The Inside Of A Hard Boiled Egg

It’s the hard boiled egg hack I’ve been looking for my entire life.      This story starts with a mystery. Our messy life      “Why would someone leave two random eggs sitting on a shelf in our fridge?” I asked myself as I went about my daily quest to keep the fridge somewhat organized.      With these pandemic times, both Husband and I and working from home, youngest daughter doing Fall semester of college from her cave, er, room, the

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Why I’m Pretty Sure My Perfectly Imperfect Husband Just Gave Me a Compliment

What do you think about what my perfectly imperfect husband just had to say? I found out this week that my husband has got it.     Got it bad. I’m kicking myself because I should’ve known.     Maybe I should’ve expected it during this ongoing pandemic? As long as we’re trying on maybe’s, maybe he shouldn’t have gone there. Come inside our marital conversation      So, let me invite you into certain marital conversation that took place this week.      I came

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My Husband Said ‘No Dog On The Couch!’ And Then This Happened

You make the call about dog on the couch-Yes or No? I’ve started shopping for one of those DNA kits.      For my husband.      The need is rather urgent.      For it’s become rather obvious,      He is not the man I married.      You might remember THAT guy, Dear Reader. An unlikely marriage      The one who was such an animal-unlover that he seriously considered not marrying pet-crazy me.      The one who insisted we go to pre-marital

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This Great Thanksgiving Debate Is Dividing My Marriage

You need to have the final say on this Thanksgiving debate You might suggest that this is something Husband and I should’ve addressed before we got married.      You would not be wrong.      Except that, we are so far apart on this issue, it’s possible, had we discussed it, no marriage would’ve ever taken place.      Our differences should not shock us.      Look at how differently we grew up.      Different parts of the country.      Different religions.

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How Our Best-Intentioned Wedding Anniversary Plans Went Totally Squirrelly

Somehow it’s another wedding anniversary that didn’t go as planned It was supposed to be a special anniversary. For Husband and me. Lucky number 7. And yet, It was not the anniversary we planned.      Husband tried to surprise me with out-of-town plans.      No one was waiting for his last-minute search.      He pivoted to Plan B. “Let’s splurge and go to a fancy new restaurant.”      Which was also very exciting.      Until an hour later when the

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