Wedding Vows: The Most Important Thing No One Else Will Tell You

It’s possible an absolutely brilliant, inspired wedding ceremony is happening about now, just as you and I sit down to have our weekly time together. I actually can’t tell you the name of the couple getting married. Our paths crossed a couple of weeks ago as my family spent some time on a beach in Southern California. Hard to miss these two gorgeous people who looked like they stepped out a picture frame you buy at a department store. They’ve

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The Note I Wish I Had With Me All Those Years

The note to myself I wish I had all those years– “Dear 20, 30, & 40 yr-old Self: It’s possible you’re obsessing about all the guys who dumped you, broke your heart, who you were so convinced were “The One?” Yeah, I know, there have been some, ‘Will Someone Ever Really Love Me?’ ugly cry moments. I want you to know if you just hang in there, you’re going to meet this guy who was put on this earth to

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Need To Decide: You Looking For a Boyfriend Or A Husband?

Get my friend, Claire, on the phone right now! We need to have lunch. Like now. I got some ‘splainin’ to do to my friend who happens to be about 15 years younger than I am. The urgent need popped up when I got an email from her earlier this week. Seems sweet Claire is tired of watching what seems like all of her friends getting married and having babies. Oh, how I remember those days, which for me turned

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Mother’s Day 2014: The Man Who Has No Business Loving Me

  He has no business loving me. The very idea of me could easily inspire a Bitter Party For One. I wouldn’t even blame him. I am not an answer to his prayers. And yet… Here we are at Mother’s Day. I’m the one being celebrated. I’m the one who gets the joy, privilege, and honor of raising his only grandchild. And yet…. The man we call, “Pops,” has experienced more loss than one person should bare: his first wife

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I’m So Glad I Didn’t Wait For Marriage

Please catch my newspaper column each week in the Atlanta Journal Constitution, the Dayton Daily News and other newspapers across Ohio.  Here’s this week’s column: I didn’t wait for marriage. Judge me if you want for not holding out. I will simply point the finger at an old boyfriend.  Oh, and my mother.    The Gift* First, my mother who on the occasion of my 40th birthday, sat across from me with my grandmother’s beautiful antique silver tea set on a tray between us.

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There’s Never Enough Time When You Love Someone

By popular demand, I’m re-posting this column on time and love which ran last July so that it shows up on this WordPress site.  Please catch my newspaper column each week in the Atlanta Journal Constitution, the Dayton Daily News and other newspapers across Ohio. A stranger took my breath away this week. What would you do if a woman you just met told you, “I’m really not a risk taker,” followed by, “I married a man who told me on our first date

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When Marriage Means Learning To Love The Ugly

Please catch my newspaper column each week in the Atlanta Journal Constitution, the Dayton Daily News and other newspapers across Ohio.  Here’s this week’s column: I did something this week I swore I would never do, managing to break not one, but two vows in the process. And it’s all part of the journey I share with you on a regular basis—what many of you have figured out before me—compromises you make as a wife and mother. For this broken vow story, you and

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The Three Little Words So Hard For Me To Say

This confession might shock you. There are three little words that are really hard for me to say. Sometimes even get stuck in my throat. Me, who writes each week about love, who shares how happy I am in my new marriage, how much I love being a mom. I have a hard time saying, “I love you.” It’s no big mystery to me why it’s so challenging. I didn’t grow up in a “I love you” kind of house. 

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Never Enough Time When You Love Someone

A stranger took my breath away this week. What would you do if a woman you just met told you, “I’m really not a risk taker,” followed by, “I married a man who told me on our first date that he only had 18 months to live.” “How’d that work out for you?” I couldn’t help but ask. “He lived 18 more years past that first date. We were married for 15 of those,” Brenda Zimmer Gibson told me. “They

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How I Found A Husband–I Settled

“Help!” the email started. “I need some words of encouragement for my 43-year-old never been married friend!” Of all the pleas this forever-single columnist thought she would never get.–That probably has to be it.  When you don’t get married for the first time until you’re 49, you hardly think you’ll be the one to be giving out advice on how to find a husband. Yet, as I close in on my first wedding anniversary, I look back thinking there is

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