“Help!” the email started. “I need some words of encouragement for my 43-year-old never been married friend!” Of all the pleas this forever-single columnist thought she would never get.–That probably has to be it.  When you don’t get married for the first time until you’re 49, you hardly think you’ll be the one to be giving out advice on how to find a husband. Yet, as I close in on my first wedding anniversary, I look back thinking there is